Sometimes God says move on!
And there was a strife between the herdmen of Abram’s cattle and the herdmen of Lot’s cattle: and the Canaanite and the Perizzite dwelled then in the land. And Abram said unto Lot, Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee, and between my herdmen and thy herdmen; for we be brethren. (Genesis 13:7-8 KJV)
Have you ever been in a place where you did not have room to stretch out leaving you feeling confined and squeezed for space? An example that comes to my mind is in the tight quarters or limitations found in an airplane seat, especially in coach fare. Often these seats restrict your movement in all directions making it harder to find a peaceful and restful position, especially in an extended flight.
Abram and Lot both felt confined. Both men found themselves lacking space enough to support their flock of sheep. Being in such close quarters with others over a period of time often leads to strife and contention. This can happen to the closest of family and friends when there is not enough space present to support the growing needs of each individual and family as a whole.
At the leading of God Abram gave Lot his choice of land to dwell in as he was willing to move into whatever land was left as long as it offered each of them distance apart relieving the stress that was building up between them. Abram knew relationships with extended family were important and did not desire for friction and contention to come between them on a permanent basis, finding it more congenial to separate before the animosity deepened causing irreparable damage to their relationship.