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Abigail: A Woman Beautiful Inside and Out

married to a foolish and ungrateful man; but God saw her true worth.

Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb. (1 Samuel 25:3 KJV)

Abagail was the kind of wife every man inwardly desires but rarely finds; however Abigail was not rightly loved or appreciated by her own husband.  She had a quickened spiritual heart that displayed many godly characteristics and was filled with a bountiful harvest of fruitful living.  Abigail was beautiful from the inside out.  She was certainly a woman who was aligned to God’s calling for her, and for all women; to live a Proverbs thirty-one life despite any circumstances of life.

And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel. Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb. (1 Samuel 25:2-3 KJV)

From all outer appearances Nabal, her husband, seemed to have everything: a lovely life and many possessions and numerous herds about him.  He had everything that many men can only dream of possessing. However, on the inside of his heart Naomi’s husband was rude, oppressive and condemning, and dealt hardily with Abigail and others in evil fashion.  His spiritual demeanor was ugly and he lived foolishly; quite the contrast to Abigail his lovely wife.  These two lived together in a marriage relationship; but resided at opposite ends of the spiritual spectrum in fellowship from day to day; Abigail had a luminescence about her life which was in stark contrast to the darkness emanating from Nabal’s life.

Nabal did not only treat his own wife in brash fashion he was often harsh to those who worked for him or those who come in contact with him in the course of a day.

The following verse records such an event:

But one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal’s wife, saying, Behold, David sent messengers out of the wilderness to salute our master; and he railed on them. (1 Samuel 25:14 KJV)

Abigail was left in awe of her husband’s treatment of others.  She would never dare choose to stoop so low in treating others as her husband often resorted to.  Abigail often felt horrified and responsible as she often tried to make up for her husband’s shortcomings and rude demeanor causing much hurt in others.  When she heard from one of her one young servants how Nabal had railed on the messengers of King David as they came to meet bringing about them only honor and pleasantness.  Abagail was beside herself with sadness that the arrival of the king’s entourage had been subjected to Nabal’s cruel demeanor rather than a greeting befitting the royal representatives of David.  Nabal’s behavior was quite the opposite and glaring when placed up against David’s respectful greeting of Nabal’s men.

Then Abigail made haste, and took two hundred loaves, and two bottles of wine, and five sheep ready dressed, and five measures of parched corn, and an hundred clusters of raisins, and two hundred cakes of figs, and laid them on asses. And she said unto her servants, Go on before me; behold, I come after you. But she told not her husband Nabal. (1 Samuel 25:18-19 KJV)

Abigail rushed to prepare for this special occasion to suitably greeting David and his accouterment of men.  She recognized his great significance and saw her own humble position and was willing to bring out the best and most delicious food sparing nothing for King David and those who accompanied him.  She gathered a great feast and sent it ahead with her hired men to present to King David as she chose to lag behind her offering prepared with love and kindness for the king.  She did not mention a thing about making and presenting this feast to the king her husband Nabal who was otherwise busy feasting in his own fashion by consuming a large quantity of inebriating or fermented drink and becoming rather drunk.

Abigail alighted off on her journey to meet the king:

And when Abigail saw David, she hasted, and lighted off the ass, and fell before David on her face, and bowed herself to the ground, (1 Samuel 25:23 KJV)

And David said to Abigail, Blessed be the LORD God of Israel, which sent thee this day to meet me: (1 Samuel 25:32 KJV)

Abigail humbly met the king in a humble fashion of respect and reverence.  This meeting had nothing to do with her own loathsome circumstances it was all about meeting the king.  She straightway fell before him in adoration and worship.  David was honored and blessed with her presence along with being taken by her many offerings of the feast placed before him by hired servants.  This woman Abigail had truly met the king and had been richly blessed as  she honored the king as well.

Abigail went away from this joyous and peaceful celebration to return unto her husband Nabal.  Certainly Abigail must have felt a sliver of disappointment or heaviness welling up in her heart as she returned unto her own husband who had accumulated many earthly treasures along with a history of being hot headed and haughty towards her.  This was quite the opposite of the tender hearted king who was appropriately fond and affectionate towards her .  Undoubtedly Abigail began her journey home knowing Nabal awaited her there likely surly and unpleasant in nature.  Little did Abigail know Nabal was about to meet a king as well but on a alternate pathway and a different ending.

Abagail understood that God identified with her bleak situation at home, knew her tender heart, and detested the darkness which came spiraling out from Nabal.  Harsh treatment inflicted upon others is just as if an insult is squarely placed upon God’s.  God intimately feels all our inflicted wounds just as if they were personally directed unto Him.  God surely felt Abigail’s suffering and pain even though she never outwardly spoke or murmured of its existence to others choosing rather to count her many blessings and focus upon the things of God instead of worldly treasures and circumstances about her.

The Bible says:

And Abigail came to Nabal; and, behold, he held a feast in his house, like the feast of a king; and Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunken: wherefore she told him nothing, less or more, until the morning light. But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became as a stone. (1 Samuel 25:36-37 KJV)

Abigail arrived back home to a drunken husband who had spent his time alone making himself wretched and miserable.  His poor choices not only affected him but sorely affected the countenance of his wife who must have been very distraught and broken over her husband’s latest escapade which left him in a hopeless drunken state and left him fast asleep having passed out from his ferment filled adventure.

Abigail waited until the morning to speak with Nabal about the extravagant feast she gave unto the king and his unconditional reception of it.  When Nabal was told of this the next day instantly his heart was instantly hardened like stone towards Abigail.  His heart was closed towards the things of God and now also shut tightly against Abigail his lovely wife.

God saw fit to demand the physical life of Nabal for the wages of his sin and utter wickedness:

And it came to pass about ten days after, that the LORD smote Nabal, that he died. (1 Samuel 25:38 KJV)

The death of Nabal must have been a sad but necessary change in the life of Abigail.   God knew the weight and weariness Abigail had carried through the years as she went about preserving her marriage vow between God, her, and Nabal each day.  Despite Nabal’s demeanor Abigail chose to love and persevere; never choosing outwardly to complain and become rattled about her unpleasant marriage circumstance.  Inwardly she dedicated herself to close fellowship with the will of God for her life without regard to or dwelling upon her husband’s harshness towards her.  Abigail understood that God intimately knew all about her situation and intimately felt each and every verbal insult and jab Nabal assaulted her ears, as well as others, on a frequent basis.

Those who personally knew and greatly loved Abagail were saddened at the spiritual implications of Nabal’s physical death for the wages of his own sin; but at the same time were hopeful for a new and joy filled life for Abigail.  She had lived a life which painted such a lovely outward illustration of God’s wonderful mercy and love while resting peacefully harboring spiritual fortitude in a close relationship with God who greatly honored and rewarded her choice to remain faithful and hopeful in Him even when her spouse and marriage was in such spiritual disarray as oppression from the actions and words of Nabal who lived for himself rather than God.

God does reward those who remain steadfast and dedicated unto His way and will:

And when David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, Blessed be the LORD, that hath pleaded the cause of my reproach from the hand of Nabal, and hath kept his servant from evil: for the LORD hath returned the wickedness of Nabal upon his own head. And David sent and communed with Abigail, to take her to him to wife. (1 Samuel 25:39 KJV)

And Abigail hasted, and arose, and rode upon an ass, with five damsels of hers that went after her; and she went after the messengers of David, and became his wife. (1 Samuel 25:42 KJV)

God soon brought about a reunion or second chance opportunity for David and Abigail.  They had met once with each likely silently acknowledging an instant spark and longing for greater closeness and companionship but both David and Abigail understood the timing was not right or proper for any godly relationship to commence in any proper sense or fashion as they both walked away with a bit of heaviness occupying space in their heart and mind.

But God understood the circumstances at hand and the inner desire of each of their hearts to ultimately honor and glorify Him despite the caling of their flesh.  God ultimately rewarded them as Abigail became David’s wife according to God’s own way and timing.



tclprofile109Lessons for ladies from the life of Abigail:

Not all marriages are made in Heaven.  Some marriages are built upon the foundation God by each spouse unto the things of God; but many marriages in both biblical times and today are based upon self-love aligned up with the god of this world by one or both spouses.  The marriage of Abigail and Nabal was a lopsided spiritual joining joining with only Abigail looking unto the things of God.

Often either ladies or men who find themselves in a similar circumstance today choose to lean towards the things of this world for advice, direction, and clarity in marriage relationships rather than line up with the truth of God’s Word.  God takes marriage vows seriously and hates divorce.  Divorce is not a part of His perfect will but rather is allowed in His permissive will according to hardened hearts.

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. (Matthew 19:5-9 KJV)

Abigail chose to look unto the things of God despite her husband’s brash attitude and natural bent towards evil and his propensity for hurling verbal insults in her direction she found supernatural strength, hope, and courage in God who sustained her in this ungodly and unequally yoked marriage relationship. Abigail treated others as she desired to be treated; including her own husband.  This unconditional love and strength on board in her heart from the Holy Spirit conditioned her to go the extra mile even for anyone, including her husband, who clearly could not discern her true value.  This godly characteristic paints a vivid picture of God’s grace and mercy.

Abigail met with David which portrays meeting God; complete with an intercessor going before her which was necessary in the Old Testament.  Abigail did not take leftovers and scraps to give unto the king.  She took her best.  She prepared a spiritual feast to offer unto Him.  Not only did she meet the King but soon would be married unto Him; unbeknownst to her and David both.  God works in mysterious and supernatural ways doing more than man can ever see or expect.

Ladies take heart in difficult or adverse circumstances God always knows and understands your heart and your intrinsic value.  He wants to give you those things which you desire.  Lean in on Him and He will give you what you desire according to His will for your life.  There is no circumstance or event in your life that God cannot handle.  Nabal met with that which he sowed in life; meeting up with the wages of his sin and physically dying upon this earth in his spiritually lost condition because he showed no remorse or desire to change from his evil ways.

Abigail met with David once again as he summoned unto her in her now “God approved” available state to marry upon the unexpected timing of Nabal’s death. This marriage was a marriage balanced proportionately upon God and His Word as they served Him together.

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